Hi, CareerBuddy!
Being an introvert in the workplace is a little uncomfortable, especially when everyone else isn’t. How do I overcome the unseen pressure to ‘perform’ without losing myself or pretending to be who I’m not?
I totally get you, and I personally believe that it’s tougher for you when you’re an introvert because a lot of traditional work environments aren’t built to accommodate introverts per se.
Most workplaces are noisy, and fast-paced, and require you to be a ‘Team Player” by fire by force. The constant pressure to network, speak in meetings, and pally up with the boss can get so exhausting.
So what’s the deal? Do you change your personality to fit into the world? Hell no! But here’s what I think you should do instead;
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Choose your workplace and style carefully: I love remote work! And it’s not only because I get to cook ogbono soup and send emails simultaneously. I love remote work because it gives me the freedom to really be myself and still excel at work. So which one is it for you?
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As much as you can, try to have quiet days at work: My job requires me to be in a lot of meetings. It’s not enough that I’m in those meetings, I also have to say smart stuff. As much as I can help, I avoid scheduling meetings on Thursdays; it’s my day of sanity, deep work, and introspection. Do you have those kinds of days?
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Be yourself: I know people say to pretend and just laugh at dry jokes all day but I disagree. If you continue that way, you’re either headed for a total mental meltdown or you’ll wake up one day and realize you don’t know who you are anymore. You can be friendly and kind but don’t joke with your boundaries either.
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Play to your strengths: You don’t have to be as loud as others but what’s that one thing you do well? Leverage it. Are you a great listener? Do you pay extra attention to details? Use it to your advantage.
So here’s the most important part. As an introvert, you actually have to be good at your job. You can’t sweet talk and ‘bulaba’ your way out of your incompetence ‘cos oftentimes, that’s what puts the spotlight on you.
Would you rather struggle to act like an extrovert or be respected for the quality of work that you do? I guess that answers it.
P.S You might also find these networking tips for introverts helpful.